So at the end everything ends on a picture ???

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LUCIANA
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dabei seit: 02.06.2010

Finally i get it ,

this FORUM is in some ways different from others, more serious more real more cool ( iguess )

where i can learn more about being and living as a lady for real.

and for years i only manage to have a couple of friends which is OK as they are pretty smart and know a lot.

but only when i post a picture wearing a sexy bikini i start getting friends request ??? speacilyl from strange profiles with no picture and no info w(which i also dont show much)

so at the end the visual factor RULES THE WORLD, if you show flesh or look very passable you are.

it does not matter if your destiniy is to be accepted or live the rest of your life as a man or woman everything that matterts to the PUBLIC is how you look.  

will this be the rule forever ?

Love

Vanne

 

Granada
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dabei seit: 10.10.2012

Hi Vanne,

women always have been and always will be judged by what they look like. Sometimes the measures for what men and women (!) call "beautyful" or "ugly" may vary (e.g. take a look at the ancient time of baroque), but overall as a woman you always have to be beautiful in the first place, otherwise you won't be recognized.

I am a friend of saying beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder - so don't care too much about what those so called super models or actresses look alike. That's only a snapshot, not their real visual impression when you wake up next to one of these in the morning. Smile And there will always be someone finding you attractive.

All in all it's sad, but true: first you have to be beautiful outside before you can get a chance to let the opposite find out your beauty inside. That's why I don't have a picture of mine set as an avatar and that's why I'm single for nearly 20 years now. Smile

Regards

Granada

LUCIANA
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dabei seit: 02.06.2010

Thanks for your answer darling,

 

Lina
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dabei seit: 02.03.2008

But really, I think some of you miss the point here. Sure it is "demanded" of women that they look good. And with us trans-women it is not really much different. But does that mean, that you have to show up in lingerie or a bikini for people to say, "Hey, you look fine today". Of course not. However, friends' requests on a social platform come more easily when you do. That is a fact.

Therefore, Vaneszaz, I'd like to ask you this question: How important are friends' requests to you? Consindering the fact that they are usually dumped in your mail by somebody you never had any contact with anyway. At least the ones I receive usually come from total strangers.

Personally I would never send a friend's  request to anyone I never had any contact with before. You wouldn't get one from me just like that. With me it would be a matter of having read something you posted, having commented on it, maybe having sent a PM talking with you off the record about whatever was going on. Such contacts often emerge to the point where I meet with people. And of course it is important that the person looks nice - I mean "nice" as in "a nice person". That is  not a question of tits and ass.  But in my case such contacts never ever began with somebody unknown dumping a friend's request in my mail.

 

 

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dabei seit: 10.06.2007

Notwithstanding the fact that a couple of obscure profiles in a rather peculiar internet forum is not the public, the observation that "sex sells" isn't altogether wrong of course. Not entirely new either though...

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It's a Barnum and Bailey world
Just as phony as it can be
But it wouldn't be make-believe
If you believed in me

Brigitte
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dabei seit: 22.07.2008

Hello Vanne,

 

when you get older and gain some weight you will wear a swimsuit instead of a sexy bikini. As I do. This will reduce the number of invitations online and will save you a lot of time for real life experience. See my gallery.

 

Brigitte

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dabei seit: 01.06.2012

Hi Vanne,

I wouldn't take the 'odd' friend-requests too seroius. I'd see them more as kinda compliment or as a currency in the meaning of 'market value' or passing. 

Nice pic causes some requests equals 'hey, I'm not too ugly' -> SMILE.

Real friends are something completely different but that's something I guess You know Yourself.

Btw., the avatar pic IS cute Smile So no reason to hide Yourself.

Smile Sarah

P.S.: one of the first times Sarah was out downtown I got a nice compliment from a random guy. Basically it didn't mean anything but finally it made me smile. Compliments are something nice (mostly). 

:-) 

En fiddl fund Wurbln un ein Harbsch mit Schronk un Borsch...

LUCIANA
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dabei seit: 02.06.2010

Thank you ladys, your comments are very welcome.

Vanne 

 

victoria
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dabei seit: 16.02.2012

Dear Vannezaz ;

Women wish to be loved not

because they are pretty,or good,

or wel bred,or graceful,or intelligent,

but because they are

THEMSELVES

 

(think about)

greetings

victoria

Victoria

jasminchen
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dabei seit: 17.06.2007

Jestem prawda, nie mam tajemnicy.

Extra Gottingam non est vita, et, si est, non est ita. Cogito ergo sum

Hrad přepevný jest Pan Bůh náš ….

 

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